Monika Foltman

There’s no way to satisfy everybody. Especially being a woman, no matter what you do or not do, no matter how you behave – there will always be critics. There will always be various opinions about you. We spend  much time and energy trying to please everybody, our parents, teachers, our partners, bosses, children. We usually feel guilty and ashamed if we cannot be everything people want us to be. As little children we are most true to ourselves, happy, vibrant, curious of the world until someone points out something in us they don’t approve of. Another kid or a disappointed parent. Then we shut down this part of ourselves. Through the course of life we shut down so much that we’ve forgotten who we actually are. We become a byproduct of other people’s expectations and we are still not fully accepted and still not feeling worthy. There’s no way to build your TRUE SELF WORTH based on the opinions of others. Is now the time to finally wake up and start asking yourself for approval? If you practice loving and accepting yourself long enough, if you give most of attention to yourself instead of others for a while, if you allow those who constantly criticize you leave your life at least for a while I PROMISE YOU, all the world around you will transform. You’ll meet new people who will appreciate you.

If you have people in your close circle who like voicing their opinions about everything you do, and it doesn’t necessarily  match your own opinion, try to say this:  “Thank you for your inside. I don’t see myself this way”; “Thank you for your advise,  I’ll think about it” or “Oh, that’s a very interested idea about me, I have a different one though” Say it with a smile, not in a defensive, passive aggressive or a sarcastic way. Just say thank you and leave. There’s no need to defend against opinions of others or to defend your own choices. What people think of you is actually none of your business. They think what they think based on their own points of view and conditioning. Each of us a a small universe that interacts with other small universes, there’s no way we can all agree on everything.